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Hey, I'm Dr Tuesday
I'm a mum of 3 and your go-to coach for this part of your life (growing, birthing and raising babies).
This is me in my natural habitat - outdoors in rural Essex where I can usually be found with one child running laps around me, another up a tree and at least one physically on my person. Chances are you'll also find a dog, a couple of cats and a small flock of poultry nearby too. For me, this is home.
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It's loud, messy and chaotic at times. This place is full to the brim of family life and completely totally imperfect.
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Which is why I'm here...
Hi, my name is Tuesday and
I'm a recovering perfectionist...
I won't lie, once upon a time I would've worn that perfectionist label like a badge of honour. And that's because setting crazy high standards and putting ridiculous amounts of pressure on myself worked well for me at certain points in my life. It's the reason I ended up with a whole PhD in Psychology for instance.
Doing well enough was never an option. Anything less than excellence was a failure in my mind.
I'm sure you can already imagine what this meant for me when I found out that I was pregnant for the first time. After the initial shock and adjustment to the idea that I’d be someone else's mum (and the internal crisis as a result of a potentially compromised career path), my perfectionist instinct saddled up and rose to the challenge.
I planned, prepped, read up and researched everything about birth and newborn babies. I was going to use everything I learned to have a positive birth experience, a smooth postpartum period and be the perfect mother.
Just apply the formula that had always worked and excel. Easy, right?
Yeah, not so much.
Not even three months into round one of parenthood and I was totally burnt out.
I'd been working so hard mentally and physically to keep up with all of the things I thought I should be doing.
To check all of the boxes.
To do it all the right way.
To stay in control.
To hold myself together.
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Until I couldn't any longer.
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Something had to give and it couldn't be me anymore.
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The birth of my 2nd child changed everything for me.
It was fast, furious and way more intense than my first.​
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It felt like there was so much less in my control.
Yet, during the whole experience I felt more powerful than ever before.
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Even when it felt like I was pushing way passed every limit of what I thought I was capable of. Even when it felt too much. Even when I wanted to give up.
I knew I was safe.
I knew I could trust myself.
I knew I could let go.
So I did.
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And I took that surrender with me as I re-entered new motherhood for a second time. I didn’t resist my experiences in the way that I did first time around and it felt like there was so much more room for joy.
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In birth and life afterwards, I didn’t feel like I was having some out of body experience that I just had to get through (like I did the first time). It was all happening for me, rather than to me.
That was the very beginning of this work for me.​
It's been a journey
My 3rd pregnancy and birth were the ultimate test of self-trust for me. ​
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It wasn't just about being ok with not being in control.
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This time there was no more looking for validation or reassurance outside of myself.
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No more overpreparing, overplanning, overthinking.
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No more doubting myself.
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It was about cutting through the noise in my own head and around me.
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Learning to tune in to what was really important to me.
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Learning to trust myself above anyone else for the first time in my life.
And so I had a completely self-led pregnancy and then birth at home.
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It was one of the most incredible experiences of my life.
And it would not have been possible without the unshakeable trust I had in myself or my rock solid mindset which meant I was ready to surrender to the process. ​​​​​​​
The Offical Bit
Not only have I personally lived through so many of the experiences that I support my clients with, but I bring a great depth of professional insight to my work. I have a doctorate in Psychology as well as training in Hypnotherapy and Counselling Skills, Postnatal Mental Health and Early Parenting Relationships, Hypnobirthing and Integrative Change Work. Basically, not only do I know where you're at in your own journey, but I have the skills to move you to where you'd like to be.​​​
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Whether you’re an individual ready to lead yourself through this next part of your life, or a corporation seeking a credible, empathetic voice to support your team’s well-being, I’m here to provide guidance, inspiration and real-world tools to support you on this incredible journey.
Come along for the ride...
You probably already know this about me by now but I'm so much more than a positive vibes only kinda gal. When it comes to pregnancy, birth and beyond, I'm here for all of it - the good and the hard parts. I'm no longer trying to meet my own unrealistic standards but lean into the full range of experiences that I get to have. And most of the time I'm doing that out loud on my Instagram. Come join me?
